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In the last 15 years, several stories have been written about Adam's drowning at the hands of a summer camp. Many journal articles have been written. Countless newspaper articles were published and at least a half dozen news specials released on local and national television. In every instance, the writers and producers communicated with us, received our permission, asked many questions and provided us a copy of the product. Why? Because they cared and were interested in the truth. Kauffman NEVER communicated because he apparently didn't care about the effects of his words and then never cared when he was told that they opened wounds and scars which should have been left untouched. Is there a clearer way to describe a closed heart? To not even acknowledge a request for a fully paid mediation is a primary sign of arrogance and certainly a sign of a coward.
Of course his text failed us at many levels, primarily it also failed Greenfield Community College, the sponsor of the summer camp. He was adept at pointing out how the college failed (adept but not accurate) yet neglected to expound upon how the college and its president engaged in mediation, apology and closure. Of course, he acknowledges none of this. Piss on someone by failing to tell a full story and walk away. He owes GCC a full and sincere apology and acknowledgement of their commitment to do that which was morally and ethically right. While Kauffman was legally in the right since Adam is a public figure, I would hardly use the words ethical or moral in describing his approach. To tell the truth, the book wasn't even that good, not at a $67.00 price tag....talk of my perception of purported profiteering. I have lived "leisure activity trauma" and its aftermath through six years of bitter litigation and could give advice in one paragraph. Simply and always accept responsibility for any incident which occurs under your care and ask the family immediately "what do we need to do to make this right!" It is easy to write about something that you did not live on a daily basis.
And then we have Frostborg's President, Jon Gibralter, Ph.D. After an impassioned three page letter from me imploring his assistance in intervening with Kauffman...nothing! Another righteous hero!
There is a lesson to be learned here. When dealing with parents of disabled children who hold trauma in every cell of their being, communicate with them. When they tell you that you have failed to communicate, acknowledge that they are speaking their truth, apologize and do better...do the right thing. They know their realities, they know their pain, they know when they are being patently dismissed ... there is no greater evil than the evil of non response to a person in pain. Traumatized people never just get over it, their wounds do not completely heal, no matter how hard they work. They care for their disabled kids 24/7 for life because it's the worthy thing to do. To refuse to engage with these wounded warriors when they request it is the antithesis of a good human being. There is still much more to come....